I am very disappointed at all these women whom don’t support each other. Honestly out of howmanyemails I have sent only one fellow female answered. The others surely don’t want to get involved. But I am strong and I am not going to take whatever reactions personally. This is my strength, I have promised myself to follow the 4 agreements from Don Miguel Ruiz. He is the go to when it comes to gaining your individuality and ditching what people think of you and this is just a small part of the whole book really. So whomever out there suffers from lack of self-esteem or is looking too much into what people think of themselves or simply are looking for a higher level of self-respect, tune in this amazing book, it will teach:
1 to be impeccable with your word
2 to never take anything personally
3 to never make any assumptions
4 to always do your best.
Miguel, I wish we knew each other to have so many constructive conversations.
Today’s world is about judgments. You wear something you are judged for what you wear. You put on make up or not you are judge for it, you say something or is it the way you say it? But here again you are judged. But it doesn’t stop in the judgment, the judgement travels and becomes gossip. The gossip can be very harsh and turns into bullying. That’s the danger zone. A simple gossip can cause disturbance in someone else’s life. Would you want to be responsible of that? The answer should be no so you should do whatever it takes to not take things personally.
People think they know you for what they see and the assumptions they make of you and it happens in your daily life. So it is very important to remain protected from those. Not caring for other people’s gossip will protect you against it. That’s what they think after all, they don’t know you, you only know you. So trust me, what is said about it doesn’t define you in any way.
I have been trying to understand why is it so important for the human nature to constantly gossip and my only conclusion is that there is nothing in their own life that is as important as their gossip. Yes, talking about someone else is more important than self-care. How sad is it? Living your life through someone else?
It is time to wake up. It is time to realise that life is short and enabling gossip is just wrong and will just get back at whomever gossips. So the human being whom is talked about should move on and get on with his/her life oblivious to any gossip.
That’s my little tangent of the day. I am a SAHM and proud to be, I will look for answers towards my research on the stay at home parent employability and if some want to judge then please do but it is not on me because I won’t take it personally.
If anyone wants to help, please do.
Harley & Lyla 